It's the representations you form around things that trouble you

Not the things themselves.

See things for what they are.

“He crashed his car.”

“What happened?”

“He crashed his car.”

It’s not the things themselves that trouble us, it's the judgment we form around them.

Is it bad that the car crashed? It’s not under our control and thus is not good or bad.

“The driver was furious for wrecking his car.”

He chose to be furious. He chose to be frustrated. This is under his control and something bad.

“The driver stayed calm in the situation, was brave and composed.”

This is under his control and something good.

Only care about the things you control. Don't judge the rest.

It’s the representations you form around things that trouble you, not the things themselves.